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  • 04-16-2008 10:55 PM

    Mom from hell; now helps Montville district

    This is what it looks like when parents and professionals collaborate! 

    This is an organization in New Jersey.  This article is a couple of years old.  I don't have the original link to the story.  The link to the Pathways organization is listed at the bottom. 

     

    MONTVILLE --Montville mother Melinda Jennis knows that, in many school
    districts, educators and parents of students with disabilities typically
    meet under limited circumstances -- at a yearly planning meeting or in a
    courtroom.

    Jennis knows because she was one of those parents. At one time, she said,
    she was known as "the mom from hell."

    These days, Montville's director of special education services, Maria
    Eppolite, uses the words "positive,""productive,""influential" and
    "respected" to describe Jennis.

    Jennis and Eppolite say they do not always agree, but manage to work out
    their differences in the best interests of students.

    Jennis, president of Pathways for Exceptional Children, is working to
    change the perception that, in the arena of special education, parents
    and school officials are adversaries. Through Pathways, Jennis has
    brought thousands of dollars of special education equipment, training and
    materials into the Montville district. She's also become a mediator for
    the K-12 district, helpingschool officials and parents avoid litigation
    in nearly 20 special education cases.

    "Somebody has to be dedicated to show it can be done," Jennis said.

    On Nov. 18, Pathways will conduct a conference open to all parents,
    teachers, school administrators, town councils and town recreation
    departments to learn from Pathways and share ideas for incorporating
    children with special needs in local schools and communities.

    In addition to Jennis and Eppolite presenting their stories of
    collaboration, Barbara Gantwerk and Roberta Wohle, two state education
    officials overseeing special education, will speak about how New Jersey
    educators must do a better job of including children with disabilities in
    regular education settings. New Jersey has the highest rate of students
    educated in segregated settings -- 9 percent. The national average is 3
    percent.

    Word of Pathway's success has spread, with more than 50 communities
    asking Jennis for help in duplicating Pathways'programs. Since November
    2002, when Pathways was formed, the group also has created more than 30
    recreation programs in conjunction with Montville's recreation
    department. Some 150 children with special needs, ages 3 to 18, have been
    given a chance for a typical life -- playing sports, going to the movies
    and playing with non-disabled children. In addition, about 1,400 typical
    students have been trained as mentors.

    For example, last month, Montville held a home run derby for 35 children
    with special needs, ages 4 to 12. Local firefighters served as umpires,
    and 50 typical children served as mentors.

    "This is everybody's issue,"Jennis said. "Everybody has to be a part of
    this."

    What Pathways does differently than other parent support groups is
    welcome school officials and parents of general education parents into
    the fold, Jennis said. Often, special education parent groups will
    exclude others, further isolating themselves, even while wanting
    inclusion for their children, Jennis said. Pathways opened its board of
    trustees to include a special education director and parents of general
    education students.

    Jennis has achieved a level of trust in the Montville school district
    because she has shown that she wants to help the schools and children,
    Eppolite said. The Montville special education director said she hopes
    the conference will show others that their collaboration can be
    replicated elsewhere.

    "I hope people will understand that districts and parents can work
    together in support of children," Eppolite said. "We can work
    collaboratively. Litigation has been going on for many years, and I
    haven't seen it work."

    Both parents and educators sometimes don't believe what Jennis and
    Pathways have accomplished, Jennis said. The conference, Jennis said, is
    a way to show them the proof.

    The day will start with teen mentors and parents talking about their
    experiences in the program.

    Jonathan Kayne joined Pathways when he was in middle school. His mother
    saw an ad for the mentoring program and called to sign him up.

    "She didn't tell me she'd called, but, today, I'm glad she did," said
    Kayne, 16, a Montville High School junior.

    Kayne is a lead mentor, who shows younger students how to help support
    children with disabilities. He also has a weekly two-hour "Big Brother"
    session with Michael, an eighth-grader with a learning disability.

    Kayne helps Michael with his homework and, once that's done, they play
    keyboard, do puzzles or just hang out and talk. The two have become
    friends.

    "A lot of kids didn't know (students with disabilities) existed," Kayne
    said. "People look at someone with special needs as different, and maybe
    I used to, too, but they're not. They're the same as us."

    In addition to feeling good about the support he offers, he has gained
    leadership and public speaking experience, he said. He now is considering
    an undergraduate degree in scientific research of autism and other
    disabilities.

    The idea for the mentoring program stemmed from Jennis watching her son,
    Jacob, travel back and forth from home to school and never going anywhere
    else. Jacob has autistic-like difficulties and attends school outside
    Montville. He had nothing to do after school and had no friends. Today,
    the 9-year-old has a social calendar that's tough to keep up with.

    "These kids go from home to school and do nothing else,"Jennis said.
    "They're totally dependent on their families. They have no community."

    "With our programs, they learn teamwork, rules, practice, discipline.
    These are keys to success later in life. They're exposed to the real
    world."


    Check out the website for Pathways at
    http://www.montvillepec.org/index.htm

  • 04-17-2008 8:47 AM In reply to

    • tnixon
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    Re: Mom from hell; now helps Montville district

    WOW!  Wouldn't it be nice if we all could have that relationship with our schools?  I guess we need to pay attention to her technique.

    Theda Nixon
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  • 04-17-2008 9:31 AM In reply to

    Re: Mom from hell; now helps Montville district

    Just an example that it can be done.  I'd love to go to some of her training sessions and find out more!

  • 04-17-2008 10:11 AM In reply to

    • tnixon
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    Re: Mom from hell; now helps Montville district

    I'm sure we could all learn some valuable information to help all students we work with around the state.

    Theda Nixon
    INSOURCE Program Specialist
    1703 S. Ironwood Drive
    South Bend, IN 46613
    1-800-332-4433
    574-234-7101
    574-234-7279 (fax)
    tnixon@insource.org
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